Thursday, August 18, 2011

High School Reunion Time

My High School is having a 40 year reunion in 10 days. I haven’t been to one yet. It’s time to get ready. Weehawken, New Jersey has the best view of New York City. My hometown didn’t have a High School so we got bussed to Weehawken.

My old friend Mario Perillo would always quote ‘Vanity is all!’. I would always laugh but now as the reunion looms, it is a serious matter. What is reflected back by my mirror is not really a natural progression of aging.

At times it scares the bejeezus out of me. Love handles? Mine could give a family of 5 something to hold on to! But I have time to prepare to meet up with my classmates.

1st I’ll deal with the illusion of a chiseled frame by centering my outfit around the color Black and accessorize with Big Bling to further distract the eye. Next, I’ll restrict my carb intake to cut a pound a day—10 pounds in 10 days. But I’ll be careful to hydrate since the dreaded ‘turkey neck’ would be humiliating.

Hair is always an issue- should I do the Grecian cover up, go chrome, or au natural? Hydrate around the eyes? (I’ll hide my reading glasses unless I REALLY need them.) No facial hair- the Fu Manchu I used to grow now comes in white, makes me look like an old hippie biker dude (and that couldn’t be the me everyone will remember, right?).

If I get my teeth whitened, they might look like a new set of Dentures!

I know that some will consider wearing some tight spandex around the gizzard but I worry about how that might play out. If it pushes the fat up, I might look like I’ve grown some breast-is! If it pushes the fat down, I might have to turn sideways to get my butt through the doorway! Borrowing an old fashioned girdle might push the whole mess even lower and my rubbing thighs would cause sparks when I walk!

This vanity thing takes up a lot more time & energy than I’m willing to give. Sorry Mario, I’m different. I’m just gonna be me-- nothing more, nothing less.

When I meet my old mates, I won’t embellish history with wild exaggerations about the ‘good old days’. I promise not to point to my world-changing accomplishments and how fantastic my children have turned out (well, they REALLY have ya know).

I’ll greet folks with enthusiasm and refrain from saying ‘You look marvelous! You haven’t changed a bit…’

Truth be told I’ve totally changed since high school. The outer change is really minimal when compared to the Tremendous Inner changes that have occurred.

So I guess when I attend the Weehawken High School Class of 1971 40 Year Reunion it won’t really be a reunion at all. My physical image might remind people of someone they once knew but the old me is long gone, just a memory. From my vantage point, it will be an occasion to see if there are any New Friends out there. Hoping it’s a fun time J.

PS- Bill Giorgio has been working out for the last 10 years to get in shape for this… I still think 10 days is enough time for me. (jkjkjk… I saw him last year and he is ‘jacked’… must be that clean livin’ in Colorado)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Apologies, Laughs & Deep Thoughts!

So I’ve been Out of Touch for a bit. Just re-grouping I suppose. There is so much Nonsense information floating around- everywhere on just about every topic. After what we’ve been through, I’m glad to report that there is Hope—more on this soon, I promise.


For now I thought you might get a few laughs and insights from my recent FaceBook postings. It’s tough for us Storytellers to say things in Tweets and short blurbs as required by our fast paced world. But methinks there IS a place--- bye4now…


After last summers miserable #^$&$*$($(% bout with cancer, chemo & radiation, it was awesome to see my wife Lin running and dancing on Sunday!!! What a difference a year makes... build your Faith, keep Hope alive.... DANCE!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2SfmcNg8js


Washing cars & Murphy's Law- Since my wife has a penchant for driving her truck on dirt roads, I usually wash our vehicles twice a year. Since there is a Big Wedding in Long Island today, I washed, vacuumed and did the glass. A not-forcasted torrential downpour has been raining on us for the last 5 hours!!! LOL


How's this for Inspiration? My son Russ 'Buddy' Jones is training @ Jay Schroeder s hard core gym in Phoenix with some of the best athletes in the world- he's standing next to this little lady and they start to chat- come to find out who she really is- OMG!!!- 3x cancer conqueror who ran across America by completing a marathon (26+ miles) per day for 93 days in a row covering over 2,500 miles crossing the South in the Summertime! Don't believe me- my new friend is Helene Neville and you can check her out @ http://oneontherun.com/


Aging skin is funny... after you lose fat, your skin doesn't just tighten up right away... It's like its sayin'- 'OK dude, ya got skinnier BUT I'm bettin' yer gonna backslide and get fat again so Why Should I Tighten' Up When You're Just Going To Stretch Me Out Again?' LOL (but the good news is that it eventually gives in and does the 'tighten up') I just dropped 20+ feeling that I didn't need the xtra lbs to do the StrongMan stuff and I would be Healthier--- it came off pretty quick just eating right (my definition :)) I got the biggest laugh putting deodorant on and there was extra armpit skin LOL I called my wife hoping it wasn't some weird disease--- fortunately it eventually tightened up PTL!!!! (btw- she said she would love me even if it didn't tighten)


'When you understand the metabolic effects of eating grains, you’re empowered to make informed decisions about the role grains will have in your diet. You’re free to enjoy good health and self-selected compromises with a clear conscience and full epicurean gusto!' -ms


'A friend holds you up when you stumble... and holds you down when you stray'... jm


5 minute iso wall squat--- Let's hear it for the Old Guys!!! YAY!


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes. -Charles Swindoll


okokokok let me get this straight about our son--- leave home in May and drive to Phoenix to train for 8 weeks- then drive to Raleigh to visit your Grandparents then up to the DC area to fly out of Dulles to be a guest speaker @ a Youth Conference in EGYPT (yeah the one in North Africa!!) then fly back to DC-- get in his car and head North to Jersey (with a few stop offs to visit on the way I'm sure)... when I was 20 I still hadn't been out of New York and Jersey...


uh-oh!!! It's Raining 3's again!!! Jayne Lin Jones-Kauffman dropped 4 long range bombs in the Pa. Summer league.... even married life has NOT affected her shooting touch :D lol...


'If his swing were any sweeter, you'd get tooth decay.' -re golfer Rory McIlroy-- ANOTHER shanty Irishman who COULD rule the world!


1973 @ the Joint in the Woods in Parsippany, NJ Gary Cook drove a van load of us to see this new band-- Bruce Springsteen and the E_Street Band... 1st time we heard Clarence Clemons 'live' - he did not disappoint... (there was a bit of a brawl between sets when the dj played disco and security tried to move us from in front of the stage :( ) Were you there???


YOU MUST CREATE AN EXTENSIVE DISTURBANCE OF HOMEOSTASIS IN ORDER TO ELICIT A HIGHER LEVEL OF SUPERCOMPENSATION!!! -JS


hey Nowitzki! Whenever I would miss a lot of shots (rare) it seemed to help if I moved CLOSER TO THE BASKET-- just sayin

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For those of you who are wondering there is no such thing as 'old school' 'new school'--- there is only Old School, New Students -BKC (pause and think about that!)


When my son was driving out to Arizona a few weeks back, he HAD to stop in Ohio to visit a teammate... NOW I know why... Really good stuff for anyone battling major illness...

GoMessiah.com - Furm's Take


Our dear friend Patti just lost her Brother after a long battle with $!*&$!($^*!^$ cancer... she posted this song- Awesome!
If you're a prayin' person, shoot a few toward Patti and her Family today... Thanks...

Geoff Moore - When I get where I'm going


the President has dismissed his Economic Guru... let's hope the next one can figure out how to get Gas Prices back to $1.79/gal (amongst other things) I remember pumpin' gas @ Smitty's Sunoco in Secaucus back in the day for 25 cents a Gallon AND I cleaned front and back windshields withOUT asking AND checked your tire pressure if you asked-- for free!!! (but those 25 cent tips were GREAT)


Wag More, Bark Less


"If I left church as changed as sometimes I left Coach Wooden's den, I would be a better person."- Cori Close, UCLA women's basketball coach

John Wooden: One year after Wooden's death, Coach's coaches carry on his legacy - ESPN Los Angeles


My commitment to Truth was unwavering, but my ability to express it in Love left something to be desired-- jm


So we're at a school in Secaucus for the anti-bully assemblies this morning. I’m setting up for the strength feats and Lin getting our sound system dialed in. Well in comes the Principal and he points to the School's sound system which was monstrous.

Lin politely tells him she's more comfortable with our system-- THE next thing we know he CRANKS out We're Not Gonna Take It by Twisted Sister and nearly blows me off the stage... It became the Theme Song of the Day with everyone playing Air Guitar and Drums... What a HOOT!!!! Loved the Kids, Teachers and Staff--- Great Day--- There Ain't NoMo Bullies in That School! :)


31 years ago today I 'attempted' to sing this song to my new Bride... my old biker pal from Secaucus Steve McGauley played guitar and harmonized-- while Lin's little brother Hank played guitar as well... although the sentiment was there, based on my performance it's safe to say that my rendition would NOT have gone viral & there would have not been any American Idol invites... LOL

Marshall Tucker Band - "In My Own Way"


How Cool is That? My friend Dennis Rogers son Jay co-wrote 'I Love You this Big' for the new American Idol champ, Scotty McCreery... now that cracks me up because Dennis' son is a Rapper and now he'll make a gazillion $ writing Country Songs! Congratulations!


Lesson from son training in Arizona... I've heard it before but he expressed it with such conviction--- 'PAIN IS WEAKNESS LEAVING THE BODY' (wait till I tell my wife about what her 'baby' is learning - ouch :D)


Americans will always do the right thing—after they’ve exhausted all the alternatives. —Winston Churchill


Warning! Do not take boiling water from the microwave when 1/2 asleep! There is a good chance it will spill on your belly and burn off a few layers of skin :( If it happens to you, be sure to have a young nurse sleeping down the hallway--- thanks for saving me Honey :D -- a mere flesh wound (or a 'lack of Flesh' wound)... my kids Jayne Lin Jones-Kauffman Krissy Jones Russ 'Buddy' Jones are afraid the scarring might show over the top of my SPEEDO when we go to the beach...


Playin' with My Head Dept- had to get my license renewed in Jersey 2day. The lady looks at my Old license and asks 'Would you like to use the Old picture or take a new one?' Well I looked at the Old pic and said to myself 'You look pretty good :D'. I inform the lady that I'll keep the Old picture and Thanks for askin'. But now I'm looking at the new license with the Old pic and I'm not sure it even looks like me :( i'm just concerned that if i get carded, the bouncer won't believe it's really me :)


Soft hands HURT!!!!


Fantastic Birthday! Many laughs including toothpaste drool on my ARPwave shirt-- (drool on one's 58th bday is ill advised :D LOL) Super dinner @ home TOPPED off by a Wifey-HomeMade IceCream Cake-- AFTER 2 servings; OHHHHH MY ACHING GIZZARD :) (breaking out the digestive enzymes)


Shout out to Krissy Jones who worked the late shift yesterday and then got up super-early to make her Momma @ wonderful homemade breakfast from scratch... then it was off to work again--( if you're eating at the Highlawn Pavillion-- Tip Large!!!)


The bliss of hamstring innervation on a Saturday morn :)


No regrets, right??


DISCREET...
1.judicious in one's conduct or speech, especially with regard to respecting privacy or maintaining silence about something of a delicate nature; prudent; circumspect.
2.showing prudence and circumspection; decorous: a discreet silence.
3.modestly unobtrusive; unostentatious


There is a huge void in our society when it comes to RESPECT. -rj


I'm glad the President shared his birth cert (not)... I'm WAY more concerned about Gas & Food prices :(


Makes sense to me--- 'Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love... true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn't matter if it's true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in.' – Hub


Some of my older friends are complaining about Gaps in their memory. Gaps are good for a few reasons- some things should be forgotten, they free up active thought processes AND--- Gaps are what friends help 'fill in' (and as we all know, revisionist history is much more fun than what really happened :D)


Father of the Century-- my Pal Tom White (father of 6 daughters) will be seeing the 1st marriage today of one of his girls... I'm sure he slept well last night lol... great father, husband, man--- I know it's not about you today but father-in sure ain't easy when you try to do it right, RIGHT???


B4 'getting in shape', one must get in Position...


He saved my life once... MANY stories to tell... R I P NJ.com : Ed Ford, Jersey City icon and Jersey Journal sports columnist, dies


It's not a chick flick but there were no mass murders, beatings, gratuitous sex or fake driving or fighting scenes either...hmmm--- Inspiring is an over-used description BUT it IS!!!!

www.soulsurferthemovie.com


After all of the great hoops over the last few weeks... the championship game was the UGLIEST I can remember... it's bad when 1 team wins by default...


What darkness? the Light is so bright there are no shadows :D


Truth has no agenda! It just is.


The Weather Channel is predicting another 5-10" of snow starting on Thursday night into Friday... It MUST be an April Fools thing-- RIGHT??? This is New Jersey NOT Colorado-- maybe it's the beginning of another Ice Age...


How did it get like this? I don't trust politicians in general but someone sent me this link--- where does our money go? If this is 1/2 true, it's still unbelievable-- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ocVj6UWiDI&feature=email


Lesson from my DOG! Our vet was so exited... our 6yr old dog REV went from 128 lbs to 102 lbs... He looks fantastic and is jumping like a puppy... His Muscular definition is outstanding! AND he's HAPPY :) His motivation was of the negative variety- the guy at the pet store said he was FAT... We're proud of our boy :D


Looking for the next Iron Will Stoneman------


Beauty is not only a terrible thing, it is also a mysterious thing. There God and the Devil strive for mastery, and the battleground is the heart of men. -Fyodor Dostoyevsky


Jayne Lin Jones-Kauffman is the only person I know on the planet who picked Butler to go to the Final 4.... I hope she shares her winnings with her Papa :D


We don't need a meeting of Really Nice Guys; we need a gathering of Really Dangerous Men___ je


I don’t want to put you in a box or restrict you. But honest talk can smash warped philosophies; tear down barriers erected against truth; and fit every loose thought and impulse and emotion into the structure of life. -rj


'Man Backed into Police Car after Smoking Pot' was a headline in one of the local papers... Apparently, the driver stopped at a STOP sign (good thing right?) and then stalled out his car, re-started it quickly (still good) but then inadvertently shifted into REVERSE (uh oh)... he looked both ways at the STOP- left and right -BUT when he hit the gas he unfortunately went backward into the Police Car... AND then to make matters worse he Failed the Sobriety test AND had to surrender his Pot and his Pipe... more news at 10... ouch... He told the police he was using the Marijuana so as not to get Cancer (not really- but that's what I would have used as my defense:D)


Thanks Russ 'Buddy' Jones for putting a thin piece of tape over the steel V handle... the pain in my hands is exquisite-- I'm sure if it doesn't make me arthritic, I'll be a better man from the experience :D


Just saw Anthony Roblis! WOW!


Nothing like hanging from one's Scapula early on a Saturday morn...


Saw a 350 lb Bear tonight... guess they're waking up--- a whole lot better indicator spring is around the corner than a dumb old groundhog... (even the BEARS get UP for March Madness :))


A brief history lesson on St Patty's Day... very cool... it was given to this Shanty Irishman by another Gerard Gorman... watch it with your family :) http://gerardgorman.weebly.com/2/post/2011/03/happy-st-pattys-day.html


March 15th--- finally able to get the Christmas lights down... what a winter!!! Our dog is still able to 'walk on water'--- pool remains frozen solid :) BUT BUT the Hot Tub IS hot :) The college spring break crew including Krissy Jones and Russ 'Buddy' Jones and friends have tested the waters!!


Did my morning workout THEN my son Russ 'Buddy' Jones came down to train... Methinks I'm really kidding myself-- his warm up was tougher than my entire workout :( (mambypamby land is trying to get me)


HUGE laundry piles in kitchen--- can mean only 1 thing... Spring Break!!!


MS claimed a friend.. he fought the good fight... RIP Ted Doty


Is 2 years too soon to get nostalgic? What a run it was!!!! Keep the dream alive kid;

189lbs Billy George Long Branch- vs. Russel Jones Pope John- | 2009 NJSIAA New Jersey High School Wr


Move over Weight Watchers, there is a new way to lose weight.....It's the "I can't afford to buy groceries to feed myself because I just filled my gas tank" diet. Re-post if you have seen the price of gas. :(


Remember the scene in Braveheart where Robert the Bruce's evil father is whispering lies to him about treason and compromise? He says to Robert what the Enemy says to us in a thousand ways: 'All men betray; all men lose heart'. How does Robert answer? He yells back,
I don't want to lose heart!
I want to believe, like [Wallace] does.
I will never be on the wrong side again .
This is the turning point in his life... and in ours. The battle shifts to a new level. W@H


Thanks to HarryO!!!! A night in My Home Town! Rev the Therapy Dog is posted outside a known gathering place of local hooligans-- ready for action!


Just tried to 1- arm curl Rev the Therapy Dog--- didn't budge him, he rolled his eyes... I know my friend Dennis Rogers can do it :) (no joke)


Those watching for SPRING; be encouraged!!! Rev the Therapy Dog and I went for a walk and even though we had 7" of fresh snow on Monday--- the Brooks and Streams which had been frozen solid are now BABBLING!!!! (couldn't exactly make out what they were saying-- but it's that way with babblers isn't it?)


I KNEW IT dept.--- Dr David explained the difference between the sexes when they shop... Men go on a Hunt; Women go on a Safari (the illustrations had us all howling :))


Ya gotta read this--- he was at our clinic a few weeks back--- someone to
CHEER for!!!
http://www.app.com/article/20110219/NJCOLUMNIST09/102190321/1002/NJSPORTS/Chris-Malleo-is-part-of-a-family-of-believers


Disturbing Trend? It seems that every time my wife kisses me lately-- she immediately pushes me away (while still holding on)... In my mind I'm like 'what is the matter with YOU??? or me??--- then I realized that when we're that close; she can't see me!!!


Took my bride to the NJ Flower Show.... a bunch of happy folks with dirt under their nails... BUT it was refreshing to see a mind-boggling assortment of plant life in full bloom esp after the winter we're having... stark contrast to my hi-tech everyday world for sure...

Friday, February 11, 2011

Lessons from a North Carolina Road Trip

Sorry I’ve been away a while… hope all is well.

Last week my almost 80 year old parents moved out of Secaucus, New Jersey after 77 years. They have taken up residence in Apex, North Carolina to live near one of my sisters. I drove the moving truck with my Dad riding shotgun and Lin followed in my Mom’s car.

Because the truck didn’t go very fast, it took about 11 hours to cover the 600 miles. My sister was a fantastic host and we went to church with her on Super Bowl Sunday.

Now the preacher caught my attention by speaking about the word ‘cumulative’; which I wrote about back in May 2006. Since I felt he did a great job addressing ‘cumulative value’ and ‘cumulative effect’, I’m going to share the highlights.

Maybe I needed to be reminded of it more than you but BY IMPLEMENTING THE IDEAS PUT FORTH HERE MY LIFE HAS ALREADY DRAMATICALLY CHANGED FOR THE BETTER.

We all need to learn how to live in such a way that one day we can look back on our lives with as little regret as possible. Always ask the question, ‘What is the wise thing to do?’ It would be awesome to live a regret-free life!

We have ALL the time we need… what are we doing with it???

1- There is a Cumulative Value to investing small amounts of time in certain activities over a long period of time. For example- exercise, your marriage, your children, etc.

2- Neglect also has a Cumulative Effect over a period of time. For example- exercise, your marriage, your children, etc.

3- There are rarely any immediate consequences for neglecting single installments of time in any one area of life. For example- If you are a committed exerciser and you skip a day or 2 or even a week, it will not make a huge difference in the long run.

4- There is no Cumulative Value to the urgent things we allow to interfere with the important things of life (that is why we have regret). Emergencies can literally suck the life out of you.

5- In the important areas of life, you cannot make up for lost time. Where did all the time go and why don’t I have anything to show for it? For example- how often does your family sit down for a dinner where life updates are given and relationships are built? What traits would you hope your children develop? Honesty, Integrity, Honor, and a good Work Ethic would be admirable. Are you taking steps everyday to help develop those traits?

‘Right Now’ is just a phase in your life. In light of your past, present and future, what is the wise thing to do with your time? What do you need to STOP doing? 4 areas to look at are Physically, Relationally, Professionally, and Spiritually.

And if you are not serving somewhere, your life is not balanced. ‘If you want to be Great, Serve!’ –JC

Lin and I took the train from North Carolina back to Jersey. It was an adventure. But at one point we were sitting at a table in one of the cars… big bright windows to the passing scenery, special snacks packed by my sister and some beverages. We had a lengthy discussion about all of the Cumulative things in our lives to this point.

We butted heads a bit and started the process of answering the Questions. Even though it was work, it was well worth the effort. Any activities that lead one to Peace of Mind are worthwhile.

All the best… bye4now…